God has worked so many miracles in our lives that it would take a book to cover them all. But the miracle that led to forming Cross-Purpose Ministries was healing of our marriage. We married in 1977 after three tumultuous years of dating, and subsequently came to the brink of divorce twice in the first seven years. Unfortunately, we were both too prideful and stubborn to seek counseling. As I, Deane, was instead seeking a divorce attorney, God allowed my entire world to fall apart, and I seriously considered suicide. Jesus met me in that place of depravity where I had not sought Him, and forever changed my life (a whole story by itself). That life-changing event set a new course in spite of life-circumstances that had not changed. But, God worked with me, one individual whose attention was fixed on Him, and supernaturally changed the lives of two, resurrected a dead marriage, and established a Christ-centered home to raise three sons.
This miracle was so dramatic, and we were both so grateful that, like the blind man who received his sight, we could not help but share what Jesus had done. Thus began the departure from educational degrees in business finance for Tom, and visual art for me, to a new calling chosen by the Lord that neither of us could have imagined — promoting healthy relationships in marriages and families. He set the course for us to study and learn from the “experts,” growth in Christ and the scriptures, and receive the practical experience ministering to couples and individuals for over 25 years — 8 of which were on church staff to establish and run a Marriage & Family Ministry.
The last 10+ years have been an intense journey with Jesus to discover what causes us to repeat some of the same mistakes that Paul addresses in Romans 7: “I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do – this I keep doing.” Most telling is when we blame others for our problems. The Lord has taught us to search each hardship and difficulty to discover the truth He wants us to know about ourselves: “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” It is this freedom and healing that the Lord has called Tom and me to share with others through Cross-Purpose Ministries.